Posted by: Kristin W | October 27, 2010

Jumping the Tracks

I’ve heard that international adoption is like a roller coaster, and so far I would agree.  There are times when you feel like you’re trudging up a huge hill without knowing what comes on the other side.  There are times that things move slowly and then speed up faster than you’d imagined.  And, if this is the case, then the past week, our roller coaster jumped the tracks.  I won’t go into a lot of detail, but suffice it to say that it’s been a crazy and emotional week.

I have spent some time on the phone with both our placement agency (WHFC) and our local agency and learned a few things that might be helpful to others.

First, referrals take into account the entire age range that a child COULD be.  So, if the child on paper is two, but doctors suspect she could be as old as five, then that child would only be referred to a family who had both age two and age five in their request.  This is interesting to us, as we thought that by having age four as our upper limit, we would possibly get a child who was older.  This has caused us to rethink our request, so we’ll be meeting with our local social worker later this week to talk about changing our age request.

Second, the case managers are not involved in the matching process.  They review the files from Ethiopia to make sure they are complete and that they are not cases for the waiting child list.  Then, they pass off the file to the matching committee, who is made up of supervisors or case managers from other country programs.  This was interesting to me, as I assumed that our case workers were the ones making decisions (of course, based on the waiting list).

Anyway, our wild ride continues.  And, to keep our mind off of it, we had our 5th Annual Pumpkin Party.  This year, Andrew made doro wat instead of chili.  Everyone was surprised to hear that he actually cut the spices (since it was still more spicy than most of our guests could handle).  The girls who were adopted from Ethiopia loved it.

Some pics from the party:



  1. Oh…sigh. A wild ride indeed. Chatting this past week has been so very helpful and reassuring (hey! we aren’t crazy!!). Thanks for reaching out and keeping me updated. I will, of course, keep you posted if I hear anything! Did you schedule your call with WHFC caseworker…or hear back from her?

    Looks like a really fun party, those kids are all adorable. I just love fall! Did you like the DoroWat recipe? If so, where did you find it?

    When I just saw the title of this post I initially panicked…”she’s jumping the tracks?! she’s no longer adopting?!” Ha!!

    • No way!! We are in this thing far too deep to give up now!

  2. Yum – I still have my misr wot left from …. 2 weeks ago… or was it last week? needless to say it made too much

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